Whether you are depressed or anxious, your inability to forgive yourself for your perceived actions or omissions, may be the very thing that is holding your symptoms in place.
We judge ourselves harshly, expecting to be perfect at every turn when that is unrealistic, and a sure way to not to allow happiness into our lives.
We may feel we have let ourselves down or let others down or we may feel disillusioned with life itself, for letting us down in some way. Whatever has happened to make us feel depressed or anxious, it is not worth continuing to punish ourselves for it.
All that happens by doing that is that, we continue feeling awful, suffer for nothing and keep ourselves cut off from love, support, joy and self-worth; all of which we can access right now, by making a different choice.
If we choose to forgive ourselves we will feel freer, happier and lighter. Forgiveness does not mean that we agree with the way things happened, just means that we are unwilling to allow it to cause us pain any longer, or to use it to feel badly about ourselves. [Read more…]